Time for Change: Look & Feel

I’ve been contemplating updating the look of my blog for a minute and if I’m going to do it, I might as do it now right? What would I be waiting for otherwise? Exactly. As with anything in life, one sometimes feels the need to refresh certain sections of it, like you would the decor of your bedroom or lounge, I’m feeling this need for my blog. It’s a personal space for me, and I’d like to believe that I give it as much care as I do those special things in my life.

So having said that folks, I’m happy to say I’ve narrowed down a few options and will decide on one very soon. I want something that is not radical, it needs to be fresh and keep within the simplistic layout that I have currently.😉

Later.

CLAIM YOUR TWENTIES

I have 4 years to go to 30 and last night came across a Ted Talk by Clinical Psychologist, Dr. Meg Jay, which was addressed to us “narcissistic and dying to be famous” twenty-somethings.

I heard the words, “your twenties are not a developmental downtime, but rather a developmental sweet spot”, I instantly sat up and increased the volume. Not because I haven’t heard or read something similar, always with the aim of readying or pushing us for life beyond 30, but because I was curious on what this Clinical Psychologist’s take was on a subject that has been so widely covered, and I guess more so, because I fall within this group.

I was right to pay attention. She had gems that I had to share.

As I was listening, my immediate reaction was to tweet it all away because I felt that the lid had been blown off a very valuable secret that all my peers had to know about at once.

3 things:

ONE: Forget about having an identity crisis and get some identity capital. Do something that adds value to who you are. Do something that’s an investment in who you might want to be next.

TWO: The urban tribe is overrated. This basically means that when it comes to your career development, it’s likely that a stranger will help you more than your best friend would.  She cites a famous social networking study conducted by Stanford professor, Mark Granovetter, who found that “weak-tie acquaintances were often more important than strong-tie friends because weak ties give us access to social networks where we don’t otherwise belong.”

THREE: The time to start picking your family is now. The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one. Be as intentional with love as you are with work. Picking your family is about constantly choosing who and what you want rather than just making it work or killing time with whoever happens to be choosing you at the time.

Basically, my fellow twenty-somethings , if you’re living in some paradise with the idea that your 20s are a kind of prolonged adolescence, get rid of that thinking now. Don’t get to 30 and think to yourself, “My twenties are almost over and I have nothing to show for myself.”

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Rihanna Navy SA | REMINDER

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Rihanna Navy… Where you at?! If you haven’t purchased your tickets, you can still do so HERE!

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YOUTH DAY

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With my girls…

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SOLANGE | ALL IN THE FAMILY

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Solange covers the Summer 2013 issue of Brooklyn Magazine where she talks about her life, family and career. Some excerpts below:

On her decision to move to New York for her son’s sake: “We were living in LA and I was writing and recording this album literally between the hours of 9am and 3pm every day because that was the time that Julez was in school. We were completely isolated, we didn’t have any family or long-term friends there, and we didn’t have that support system built in there that we have in New York. We really wanted Julez to have the experience that we had growing up — being able to drop in on his aunt’s house and being able to hang out with Grandma and see our friends and have that experience of actually having a soccer game and having family show up.”

Managing being a single, working mother: “Is definitely a balancing act, and it is not at all easy. I do the best I can, which involves a lot of saying no to things, actually, and a lot of really organized scheduling and a lot of help, to be honest. That was one of our major incentives to moving here. We were living in LA and I was writing and recording this album literally between the hours of 9am and 3pm every day because that was the time that Julez was in school. We were completely isolated, we didn’t have any family or long-term friends there, and we didn’t have that support system built in there that we have in New York.”

See the full article here.
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ME x NEW HAIR

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My new hair. I might just let it be my trademark. Deciding…

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AS SAID BY DASHA ZHUKOVA

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From GARAGE magazine’s Dasha Zhukova. WELL SAID.

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MALICK SIDIBE

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A moment of appreciation for these beautifully captured moments by Malick Sidibé. A Malian photographer noted for his black-and-white studies of popular culture in the 1960s in Bamako.

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bonang x a fashion friend

Bonang is a friend of fashion.

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For more, click here.

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J.Monae X E.Badu X QUEEN

Fresh off her Coachella performance, Janelle Monáe premiered “Q.U.E.E.N.,” a new track from her upcoming album, The Electric Lady. She teams up with one of my very favourites, Ms Erykah Badu, who in her typical sound comes in midway to tone down Janelle’s up-tempo, high energy vibe. Happiness.

“THE BOOTY DON’T LIE”

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